style brick road: a blogger's job isn't to be likeable&nice, it's to be fabulous&fashionable!

Saturday, 11 February 2012

a blogger's job isn't to be likeable&nice, it's to be fabulous&fashionable!

hello readers!

This is going to be one of those posts that talks about my life, my problems, and my thoughts. I wanted to do this post for a long time now, but I always thought 'This is a fashion blog, nobody wants to know what's in my head. They want to know what's in my closet'.

When I found out that I passed the exam yesterday, I was extremely happy, but after few minutes I was thinking 'What next?'. I was thinking of reading a book, writing a lot of posts, meeting up with a lot of people I didn't get to see during the exams, or even writing a book. See, I have a lot of ideas on my mind, but something is still stopping me. I bet you wanna know what!

When I started writing this blog, I never thought about being 'famous', a 'world-known' blogger, or that people will 'talk about me'. I just met Ljupka, Ana, and few other bloggers, and Ljupka talked me into opening a blog. I was SOOO confused when it started- I didn't know if I was able to an outfit post every few days, if I'll be interesting, or if more than 5 people (including parents) would read my sh*t. After a while, the number of visits started to increase, and so were my wishes and hopes. After one, one and a half months, I was thinking about becoming a 'croatian bryan-boy', going to fashion weeks, and being a DIVA. And about the same time, the first critics came.

They were talking about me being in places that I didn't deserve. They talked about 'the guy with the ray-ban eyeglasses' and how he didn't know fashion, english, or anything else. That really hurt me. In ways that I couldn't imagine a critic could hurt me. I had so many 'critics' during life- they said I was fat during kindergarten years (and I was SO not :P), and 'the gay story' came to life with my elementary school years.

You can't even imagine how mean can children be. The boys especially. That's why I don't have any male best friends, and the reason why I could never be gay. I hate men, so I could never love them (I know it's maybe hard to understand but try :D). The only men in my life I can really believe are my dad, my uncle, and my grandfather.

After that period of 'world known blogger' in my life, and the 'back to reality' critics, I asked myself a question: 'What now?!'. What was I supposed to do? Explain my story to them, or say I'm sorry?! No, I could never do that. I continued with my 'job' as a fashion blogger, and imagined I was writing it to myself. I never cared about the negative things one may say, but I always had a response to a critic- like a backfire. After another month, the next wave of critics came down on me like rain. They talked about my 'bad' english, about the 'ugly' oversized blazers, and my 'false friendships' with other bloggers. One of the critics said 'I would like you more if you'd came out of the closet'. That really hurt. More than the first time.

I always talked back, never could let it go. And I stil find it too hard not to respond. Because it's easy to say a bad thing, but it's hard to say nothing.

I'm now here where I am, talking to my style-brick-riders with my bad english and in my ugly oversized blazer. I know my english is never going to be TOP NOTCH (although I try, and I still hate the people that write in 'artificial' english), and my blazers are never going to be everybody's taste. But it's me. You really see what you get, and I'm never going to be a backstabbing bitch.

A famous and fashionable woman named Audrey Hepburn once said: "Success is like reaching an important birthday and finding you’re exactly the same."

SO f-ing true.



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hope you like it! ˆ*

xs

31 comments:

  1. I don't really comment here (or ever, anywhere, for that matter), but I have the need to do so here. I loved the post.
    Blogging brings haters along, simply because people are like that, vicious and snarky without really realising it.
    Putting yourself out there is brave and dealing with it with grace and dignity is what makes me like you. :)
    Nastavi dalje ;)

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  2. što se mene tiče, sakoi ti nisu preveliki, a engleski ti je sve bolji :) zgodan si, simpatičan i poseban.
    keep going :)

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  3. Ma, super si Dino, meni je baš drago da te je Ljupka nagovorila da otvoriš ovaj blog... Ja bi videla bolje fotografije... super mi je kad te Ana fotka... Nemoj brinuti... eto, moja angleščina e boljša od moj hrvatski... pa ipak natipkalo ovo :)

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  4. Jako lijep post i sve. I znam da ti dosta ljudi reklo da pises na hrvatskom. Ma jebesh greske i pravopis. Na greskama se uci. Ipak zivimo u zemlji (ne)znanja i milslim da dosta ljudi samo preleti tvoj blog i da im se neda čitat na engleskom. I meni koja znam engleski je trebalo duže da pročitam, a zamisli tek one koji ne znaju dobro engleski. Zasto ne bi probao pisat jedan post hrvatski, a ispod njega engleski. Tako jednim udarcem ubiješ dvije ubiti tri muhe. Zadovoljiš čitatelje, zadovoljiš sebe i opet imaš otvoren put stranim čitateljima.
    M.P :)

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  5. Ja kao budući profesor ( 4-ta godina) engleskog jezika ti mogu reći da nikad na tvom blogu nisam pročitala neku kardinalnu grešku koju ne bih mogla oprostiti i mislim da je tvoj engleski na jako zavidnom nivou,i nema šanse da neko ko nije native speaker ne napravi nikad grešku , ja ih prva nekad pravim, moji ih profesori prave pobogu ! Tako da zbog toga ne smiješ ni malo da se brineš! A šta god da nosiš .. jedino je bitno da se tebi sviđa , kome se ne sviđa ne mora se vraćati na blog , jedna je stvar napisati konstruktivnu kritiku a sasvim druga biti zloban zato što nemaš pametnijeg posla, ja iskreno žalim te hejtere po blogovima jer svaki sekund koji potrošimo na tako negativne stvari je nepovratno izgubljeno, a što se tiče tih komentara o seksualnoj orijentaciji.. Balkan je ovo, i ne možeš biti muško koje voli modu a da nisi gay ili bar da se ne posumnja da si gay , to su i Vladanu non stop govorili džaba što se zabavljamo 5 godina .. kao ja sam mu cover samo. Prosto da ne povjeruješ koliko su se ljudi spremni baviti tuđim intimnim stvarima. Sorry na ovolikom komentaru ali eto morala sam.. sve u svemu ja jako volim tvoj blog i iako te ne znam mislim da si jako zanimljiva i draga osoba i bolje je imati 100 ljudi koji će pratiti tvoj blog zato što te cijene nego 1000 zato što ćeš uvijek prešutiti i mijenjati se zbog njih.

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  6. i eto vidiš ja pravim greške i na svom jeziku i često ispadnem nepismena , fulam padeže ..brzo kucam i nikad ne pročitam prije nego što odem na publish to što sam napisala :D a nisam nepismena I swear :D

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    1. hvala ti puno! <3 puno mi znači tvoj komentar. nadam se da ćemo se jednom upoznati. ˆˆ

      xs

      Dino

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  7. BRAVO Dino! Naježila sam se dok sam ovo čitala!
    Ja volim tvoje 'oversized' sakoiće, i ray-ban(ke) i sve skupa zato jer si to TI!
    malo je ljudi koji se ističu u gomili i meni je to uvijek lijepo vidjeti, a tim hejtera radi upravo suprotno-'baca hejt' na sve što je drukčije i zanimljivije od 'sive mase'.
    My advice - ne obaziri se, ljudi su zli naravno, ali i dobri - usredotoči se na ove druge! :)
    Nabaci svoj PREVEL'KI sako i počni s ljudima pričati na svom BAD INGLIŠU.

    We love you :)

    kiss, Dora!

    p.s. bravo za pojmove ;)

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  8. Kad sam te prvi put upoznala na Industriji, pomislila sam "Wow this guy really KNOWS something about fashion". Ovo vjerojatno nisi znao ha? I pomislila sam onda "On mora biti blogger ili novinar". I i dalje to mislim, za svoje godine imaš zavidno znanje i imaš karizmu. Jako si drag i simpa i hepi sam kaj smo se upoznali. Nastavi dalje, ne brini što misle oni koji te NE POZNAJU i znaj da imaš ljude oko sebe koji te znaju i vole. Hejteri će uvijek biti tu - ignoriraj ih i rokaj dalje po svome <3333

    ps fakat mi je tužno i jadno kada ljudi sude o drugima bez da ih upoznaju - to su ionako samo licemjeri.

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  9. Pleas keep in mind the we can all only be who we are, nothing more, and more importantly... no less. So ignore the narrow minded people who have nothing better to do than insulting someone who is just starting with a new thing in his life. They are idiots.

    BTW. You are doing just fine. Great actually. Keep it up.

    i nisam anonimo nego sam Lea Š. (ona frčkava) i (sori na spelling)

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  10. Odlican post i što je najvažnije jako iskren. Pratim tvoj blog već neko vrijeme, i mogu ti reći da nikad nisam ima problema s razumijevanjem tvog engleskog, nemoj se zamarati takvim komentarima...blog ti je odlican!

    makeitblonde.blogspot.com

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  11. E, pa Dino, svaka čast na ovom divnom tekstu (bez greške, kol'ko vidim ;)). Uvijek me iznova iznenadi kako ljudi sve znaju o ljudima koje NE POZNAJU! Često to imam prilike osjetiti na svojoj koži, a kako to traje već 7 godina, već sam se navikla. (ako mi znaš prezime, znat ćeš zašto). Postoji jedna teorija, koja kaže da ćeš znati da si uspio tek kad te ljudi zamrze, jer će ti čovjek sve oprostiti osim uspjeha. Meni je ta teorija prilično uvjerljiva, a ako ju primijeniš na svoju situaciju, onda možeš biti jaaaaako zadovoljan! bilo bi puuuuuno ljepše da nema te zločestoće u nama, ali jbg, to nam je valjda u genetskom kodu! Glavu gore i ne obaziri se! šaljem ti veeeeeeeliku pusu! :* Ilina

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    1. Sve znam i sve razumijem, hvala ti puno! ;) I ova teorija je od sada moja mantra! :DD

      xs

      Dino

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  12. kad sam te prvi puta vidjela onako preplašena pomislila sam "eno jedno prijateljsko lice." i bila sam u pravu. tako sam sretna sto te imam u svom životu beštijice jedna mala :*
    (papiga.)

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  13. sladak i iskreni post. nemoj si uzimat kritike srcu toliko!

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  14. Gledam tvoj blog tek od prije mjesec dana i mogu ti reci da si odlican jer si drukciji! Poseban si, a znas i sam da se posebnost uvijek ocitovala i uvijek ce se ocitovati, zato pokusaj zanemariti sto ljudi govore o tebi. Znam da je tesko, ali nema nista drugo sto se moze napraviti, ostani jak i bori se. Ako nikad ne probas, nikad neces ni znati sto se moglo dogoditi :)
    Postojati ce ljudi koji ce govoriti lose o tebi, bez obzira na to kakav si, sto radis u zivotu i sto si postigao. Bitno je da ti znas ko si i sto si, da se izgradis kao dobru osobu i da si okruzen ljudima koje volis i koji tebe vole. To i sam znas :)
    I evo ti jedan meni jako drag citat koji me oraspolozi:
    "Vidiš, još mislim dobro o tebi, i želim da se ponekad probudiš usred noći, i da dugo sjediš prekrštenih nogu na postelji, mučeći se kajanjem i stidom, zbog mene. Ali, neka ti je bogom prosto, nisi ti birala svoju sitnu dušu, dali su ti je, ne pitajući, došla si na red kad drugih, boljih, nije više bilo."

    Zivija! Pozdrav iz Zadra :)

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  15. I knew that there's always gonna be some people who dislike what we do here but I just never realize that they would be that mean. I think you are amazing, the way you handle the haters and the mean comment.
    Please know you are amazing! ignore all the haters, they just cant stand how amazing and inspiring you are. Dont let them bring you down because there are many people support and love you the way you are, including me ;)
    Just like what other people say, haters are confused admirer. they hate you because you affect their lives but dont let them affect yours, ok? :)

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  16. sori, ja ću na engleskom jer mi hrvatski ne ide toliko dobro ...

    you know what? DON'T. GIVE. A. FUCK. seriously. that can be hard, but once you master it, you've won. it's the only way, really. the one thing that's truly important is that you like & enjoy what you're doing AND that you're constantly learning and trying to improve, but for your sake, not for others. I know some people can be truly disgusting in their attacks, but remember, that tells something about them, not you!

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  17. Keep your head up and just follow your dreams! If you truly want something you're gonna get it and all those crappy people that are criticising you at the moment, they are once gonna regret every single bad word, they have ever said to you!

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  18. “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi ~
    ;)

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  19. :) Vjerujem ako si prosao sve to u zivotu da ne bi trebao obracati paznju na nekonstruktivne kritike. ljudi ce uvijek pricati, no i to ima dobru stranu, barem ojacas, zar ne? :) i ja sam prosla tu neku fazu gdje su me maltretirali, ali to me ojacalo i nikako me ne pogada kad mi neke osobe koje niti ne znam niti mi ikaj znace napisu nekaj ruzno. ljudi su takvi, pogotovo u Hrv... oni ce uvijek pricati i vrijedati, a mi cemo bit oni koji ce se dalje trudit i dalje gurat po svom. Barem ti daju nekkvu motivaciju, da budes bolji i jaci.

    nina

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  20. Talking about yourself is sometimes necesary ;)

    http://cashmereflowers.blogspot.com/

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  21. "A person hates you for 1 of 3 reasons. 1) They want to be you. 2) They hate themselves. 3) They see you as a threat." - to sve govori :) živio ti nama dino, još dugi niz godina skupa sa svojim blogom :)

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  22. Rekla sam ti sve u zivo i na PM pa necu opet ponavljatu. Drago mi je sto si napisao ovaj post, ali ne zbog mene jer meni ne moras objasnjavati, nego zbog sebe. Nekad je vrlo vazno reci sto mislis. Zao mi je sto si napadnut ali svi blogeri imaju hejtere pa i nisi pravi bloger dok ih nemas :) Ah ta HR, tako mala, s tako puno zlobnih ljudi koji se mole Bogu samo da se poslkliznes i padnes. E pa otresi sei i reci - Not a single fuck was given!

    <3

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  23. Dragi Dino, tekst je zaista odličan i moram priznati jedan od boljih blogerskih članka. Znam da to u tvom slučaju nije slučajno jer ipak si nam ti jedan od mladih perspektivnih novinara :) Redovito te čitam i trebao bi česčće pisati članke, a ne samo pokazivati svoje odjevne kombinacije, koje su usput rečeno divne. Sending you lots of hugs and kisses :*

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  24. Loš engleski- dobar engleski. Loš hrvatski- dobar hrvatski. Loše slike- dobre slike.Loša moda- dobra moda..and so on.. Svaki blog je drugačiji, individualan i u tome je poanta. Ja ne razumijem one koje prate nekog tko im se u biti ne sviđa i jedva čekaju negativno prokomentirati.. Odličan post,želim ti reći-budi svoj, glavu gore, a najgore je ne izazvati nikakvu reakciju :)

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  25. Ta blog je fantastično. Če bi radi, da se naučijo tujega jezika, potem lahko greš to povezavo.

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  26. Bok Dino!Ne poznajem te osobno ali mi djelujes jako simpaticno dok citam tvoje postove.Nemoj se zamarat onime sta drugi misle jer ces ionako uvijek nailazit na ljubomorne budalu koje ce se trgat jer nemaju tvoj stil i osobnost...al ko ih j**e ;) ?!?Trabas biti sretan jer si u malo vremena uspio prikupit vjernu publiku koja te redovno prati i jedva ceka da postaš nove tekstove i kao sto mnogo puta spominjes,nasao si medu blogerima iskrene prijatelje-a to je jaaaako vazno.
    Kao sto rekoh,pratim vrlo rado tvoj blog i sve mi se vise i vise svida.
    Samo tako i dalje rasturaj i budi mi happy! :**

    pozz
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